YEAH…I SAID IT!....byDaNa.
Depressed… Reality bites Darhlin’! Been There Done That…
You don’t have to be infallible! Recognising the symptoms is 25% of the battle.
The next 25% comes from accepting that. Heck yeah! I’m going through it… no big deal!
Another 25% will come from taking conscious action - be that what it may... binge reading different self-help steps and guides or find a professional to ease your way.
The last 25% you can just forget about, cause if you are trying to pull yourself out of the rabbit hole you can be sure you are gonna be sliding back all the while trying to claw your way forward and it will be constant struggle for quite some time.
Once again accept the reality of the situation. Congratulate yourself for every step forward, there’s no need to berate yourself for slipping. Know that you were ahead earlier and hence you can get back up again (anyone else takes life lessons from Trolls?). You may need a bit of down time, maybe you didn’t realise you were working yourself to death. So Just Breathe..........
Recognise the people in your life that have your back and let go of the ones with too much drama and excess baggage. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
If it’s not adding to your life Delete it. This would apply to anything and everything and anyone you come in contact with on a daily basis. De-clutter, spring clean, organise, re-organise. Whatever the case maybe, you will find yourself feeling lighter, happier, free. This opens up your life and space to new possibilities and experiences, new people, new friends and new adventures. This will not be easy or immediate… small wonder, nothing ever is. However, this is a habit that will eventually become second nature to you and results will be faster as you continue on your journey.
YOU are ALL you will ever need
Find yourself feeling resentful? You have every right to be Happy, have fun, make new friends, find a new tribe, have new experiences, wipe out the guilt. Don’t be selfless at your own expense, your family and friends are not going to love you more because you are self- sacrificing or as my mother would put it..."don’t be a Martyr". You are human and you have your own wants and needs.
If you have to, use the one day at a time philosophy.
Be clear on your Priorities. Decisions are easier once you tie them in with your priorities. Simple example:- friend calls last minute to invite you out for a few hours just a hang out or wind-down. No big deal. However you hesitate, it’s the middle of the week, your kids have assessments on in school, you have a big project at work, someone at home is unwell, prior engagement, could be any or all of the above and then some more, What do you do? Can any of your obstacles, be them what they may be, take less priority over a drink with the friend? If yes, then you have your answer. If you have your priorities straight in your mind/head it makes tough decisions that much easier and with time you learn to act on instinct. Yes, there will be times when you feel like you missed out but you will be at peace because you had a higher priority that time. There will always be another day/night.
You have a ‘To Do’ list that’s getting longer by the hour? A common scenario is feeling overwhelmed by everything that’s going on in your life. When it rains, it pours predicament. Take time to prioritise again. Not everything requires immediate action. Then you have the important tasks and the additional tasks. Divide and conquer!
With age comes the long list of priorities… that is, IF you have been growing as an individual.
In summary : -
Welcome to Reality – everyone goes through Depression.
You can find the tools to work through it.
This is your life… you are the star of your own movie – So give yourself that happy ending.
Written by DaNa, she can be reached out on dana.yeahisaidit@gmail.com
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